Married to DH for a number of years, good relationships all round in the most part.
DH and Ex still have disagreements and aren't each others biggest fans but they co parent okay. I get on with his ex fine too.
DHs ex is very.... Competitive? She likes to show off basically. It comes across as quite confrontational sometimes though.
For example, she likes the gym. If she achieves anything fitness wise, she will tell us all about it, send pictures of the amount of calories burnt, distance ran etc... my DH joined a gym a few months ago and the SC must have told her as we were talking about it. Cue lots and lots of questioning at next pick up and sarcastic comments about 'since when was he into getting fit' and laughing. It was just a bit awkward tbh...
It's the same with other things. Like when she bought her house, pictures and comments about how well she'd done, telling us the kids say the room is bigger at hers, when are we going to move, do we not have enough money yet or something? Intrusive questioning basically. She's done similar when I was in hospital, why was I there? What for? Why didn't we tell her first?
Aibu to just find this a bit weird from a grown woman? Surely you would realise you're doing it? The strangest part for me is DH very very rarely replies to any of these things. She's literally sent him pictures of herself doing runs and stuff like 'did it in X time' and then a selfie in running gear, and he just ignores it.
I know it sounds like she could possibly be trying to come between us, but from knowing her I really don't get the impression from her that she is still interested in him romantically (and she's got a partner herself which seems to be going well), it really does seem to be more of a 'I want you to know how much better I am than you' kind of thing if that makes sense? It comes across as very nasty when she's doing it as there's a lot of sarcasm and laughing involved, but I don't know if she intends it to be. DH said she used to put him down about stuff all the time so he just ignores it now but I do find it odd.
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JumanjiY · 04/05/2020 11:48
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