Background: We have a 4 bed house and three kids between us. My 16yo daughter is with us pretty much full time and my two stepkids usually visit 3 days a week. They are 13 and 19, two boys. (They haven't been staying with us at all for the last 6 weeks as husband is shielding and we jointly made the decision with their mum that the kids should not travel between houses).
My 16yo has the second biggest bedroom in the house after our master bedroom. We have another double bedroom and then a box room. Up until last Sept when the eldest went to uni, the youngest had the box room. Then we moved the youngest into the other double and had the box room as a spare room (and the eldest used it when he was home for the holidays). The boys mum had done the same and moved youngest into bigger room, but now that he's home from uni she's made the youngest give up his bigger bedroom for his big brother.
I kinda feel this is a bit unfair and when they are back staying with us I intend to keep the arrangement the same as it was when the eldest was just back for hols, even though I know he will be back for longer. Is this unreasonable? I feel like he only needs a big room at one of the houses at his age, and then he can take a decision on where he stays.
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chocolatesaltyballs22 · 04/05/2020 10:59
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