I know everything is worse atm with lockdown but right now im hating being in my house and dread when my SS comes to visit.
He has a habit of telling lies, exaggerating things, drama seems to follow him everywhere. Its just really getting me down.
I feel like I fall for his stories everytime, i get upset and defensive on his behalf, spend time reassuring him and talking things through but then bam, everytime it turns out that actually it wasn’t quite how he spun the story or he wasn’t completely innocent in the situation and then im left feeling like an utter fool, a complete mug and then i get sad, then angry mostly with myself that ive allowed it to happen again.
This has now resulted in me feeling resentment towards him and really not enjoying when he comes to stay as there is just ALWAYS something. I don’t like drama, or lies or billy bullshitters and of course this whole situation causes tension and upset talks between myself and dp. Its his Son so of course he will forgive him anything but i feel like im being made a fool out of.
He goes between our house and his Mum’s and things are up and down. One minute we are the favourites and he moans about his Mum and step dad then the next month its switched. Im so tired of it, i dont know where i stand with him and i feel like i cant trust him, he can act nice as pie to my face and i think oh we’re actually getting on well but then for instance i will over hear him on his phone to his gf making fun of me and mocking me. That makes me feel like shit in my own home! This is supposed to be my safe happy place, i dont have a choice to have him here or not as he is the son of the man i love ffs, i just want to scream.
He’s 16.
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Step Son telling lies and causing tension
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FabledBunny · 22/04/2020 11:29
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