Hi I was hoping for some advice.
I've been with my partner for two years now, has a son who is 12. My partner and I live together and have done for about a year.
The last few weeks when his son comes over, he'll talk to me a lot about what his mum likes, what she does, what she cooks and bakes, what activities they do together etc. Sometimes my partner will ask questions of his son about his mum around me too.
My partner's ex is also still involved with his family heavily and my partner does her food shopping at the moment when we go to get ours to be helpful.
I've spoken to my partner and said I understand his son loves his mum and she's a great mum, but I'm finding it hard to hear him talk about her so often as I feel compared and judged. I can be making something and he'll tell me his mum does it a different way, or she makes her own bread etc. Im all for fostering positive relationships with the ex, but I don't want to hear about her as often as I am. Ive asked that he try to not engage as fully in the chats and that he not bring her up himself. He said he understood and that was fine.
But then at dinner last night my partner asked a couple of questions about his ex again. That caused a conversation about what she does. After I'd already had a day of his son telling me that his mum does xyz, when I'm doing something with him.
I tried to talk to my partner and he's reacted badly and said I shouldn't be this sensitive and it shows I dont have children.
I'm not asking him to stop his son talking about his mum. Just try to redirect and not bring her up himself.
He then went and angrily (aimed at me) told his son not to talk about his mum infront of me. Which will now cause problems.
I don't know what to do, any advice would be appreciated.
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KathrynG1988 · 20/04/2020 10:29
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