My partner moved in with me late last year - he has a seven year old daughter he sees almost every day with a number of overnights a month and I have a 12 year old son.
Everything has been going really well - we're all getting on fine except for one issue. My partners' daughter is very demonstratively affectionate with me - she's called me Mommy a number of times, she hugs me and sits on my lap a lot and I don't think my son likes it. He got quite upset recently when she called me Mommy and he stormed off. My partner talked to her and I've told her that I'm not her Mommy and she stopped. She's now taken to sitting on my lap and cuddling me when my son is around. She used to try to cuddle my son a lot too which he didn't particularly like and my partner had to talk to her about that as well. I feel bad that she's had to be pulled up so much.
On the one hand, I know she's probably feeling insecure and I want her to be happy here. On the other, I don't want my son to feel pushed out
or his personal space invaded. He's very good with her - he'll play with her and makes her laugh a lot. I've gotten to the stage where I'm quite stand-offish with her when he's not here as I don't want to encourage her - I also want her and her dad to have time alone together.
I spend time with my son alone and I've talked to him, told him that the little girl is a bit confused, that I also find the situation a bit confusing and we need to be patient but is there anything else I can do? Is this normal? Has anyone else experienced it?
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TheBeastAwakens · 10/04/2020 09:43
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