I’ve been with my partner for 9 months and he’s got a 4 year old. I met him quite quickly and always got on really well. I lived with partner at his house but we’ve now moved in together to a bigger home, mainly for his little lad.
Since we’ve lived here, his son won’t let me talk or spend anytime with his dad. Anytime I try talking to him, he’s “daddy daddy daddy” I always used to play with him, join in their games and activities, sit with them etc... and now when I try, he always says “not you, just me and daddy” He screams the house down if his dad asks me to get him ready.
The last few weeks I’ve taken a step back, but now it’s causing issues with my partner as he’s complaining I don’t spend anytime with them. It sounds silly but I feel like his little lad doesn’t want me there so I don’t want to upset him, hence me keeping away.
I’ve noticed now, that if his dad is busy, not even with me, he’s started pooping himself, even though he knows how to use the loo. So now that’s causing a fall out as it’s me that cleans it up and does all the washing etc...
I feel left out of his little lads life when he’s here and we have him a lot. I used to look forward to him coming but not so much anymore, as it ends in fall outs.
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lolapops14 · 07/04/2020 11:55
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