Step kids and Coronavirus

[Blibblob]

I have 3 sc ,SD 17,SD 21,SS 23
The only one that still visits us on a regular basis is the youngest as she still lives at home with her mum. We have put a stop to her coming for the time being as me and my husband are key workers who have to go to work full time (retail)so there is a higher possibility of us catching the virus.
My anxiety is obviously at an all time high at the minute so I’m not coping well, here is the problem. The ex’s household is not taking this seriously at all.




We are getting grief from youngest who doesn’t know what the big deal is and said she’s coming round next week cos her mum says she’s got too.
I know that the middle daughter has also come home for a visit for a week she lives in another town and a different household. So there is already a mix of households there.
Ss who lives in a different town has phoned his dad and told him that his mum has rang him and told him to come over ,everyone is here don’t sit on your own!
They have also got a step dad who has 5 kids that he has shared custody to and they are all there this weekend.
I just can’t get over the stupidity, my husbands getting accused of being a shit dad cos he doesn’t want them over, he just wants them to be safe.
I just want everyone to stick to the rules stop the arguing and stupidity.
How do I deal with it? We have told them as bluntly as we can if you come over we could give it to you and you could die , stay at home .

[SandyY2K]

Aren't they listening to the news. People are dying every day...the numbers are rising.

They can call their dad.

I don't understand the lack of common sense.

Sorry...no answers fir their lack of common sense under the circumstances, but she shouldn't come over. Your DH should send his DD links to the rising death toll and the stay at home message that's on TV every minute.
Maybe that will hit home.

[Malone98]

I cannot understand why some people are not taking this situation seriously. Of course, things are having to change for families and generally not for the better, but it is only temporary.

It may seem harsh, but as long as you and your husband are on the same page, I would make it clear that they will not be coming into your household, even if they turn up at your door. You are trying to keep them all safe! You aren't the bad guy xx

[Nicelunch25]

I've got 2 Dad’s and 3 kids and stopped visits 3 weeks ago. One put up a fight but both accepted it ultimately. Some people are at their worst just now. Just stand your ground. I think the lockdown will get stricter anyway so maybe you won't be the one needing to lay down the law. It's really tough, I'm sorry to hear this is adding to your stress.

[Coffeepot72]

I am amazed that the government haven’t officially stopped children travelling between their parents respective households. Yet again, anything step related seems to override common sense and (under current circumstances) the preservation of life

[Pipandmum]

It's your home. These are not little kids but adults and one old enough to know better. Just tell them if they show up you will not answer the door.

[MeridianB]

Send them a link to the news stories about the two young nurses who tragically died this week. Or the non-medical people with no underlying conditions who passed away. They are all old enough to get the point, even if their mother and stepfather are twits.

[buttcrackmcheese]

My son is 12 and accepts he can't visit his dad due to vulnerable people in the household, so I don't understand people's older DC who can't just get on with it like my son! I'd warn them I wouldn't be opening the door to them should they turn up.