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Are there any changes to your maintenance with coronavirus?

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Selfisolationquery · 26/03/2020 14:21

DSD's Mum hasn't mentioned it and tbh I doubt she will but I'm just wondering what everyone else is doing? We've missed two weekends of seeing DSD so far because of coronavirus and none of us know how long this is going to go on for. Current maintenance is based around us having her on average 2 nights a week but obviously this is not the case at the moment.

Have any of you had the conversation about maintenance whilst this goes on and have there been any changes in terms of increasing or decreasing the amount?

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LittleLittleLittle · 26/03/2020 19:18

Nope no changes unless you have difficulty paying due to loss of income.

CAFCASS actually states in their guidance that if the parent the child spends time with can't have them due to Coronavirus, you make up the time when it is safe to do so.

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MeridianB · 26/03/2020 19:28

Much better to make up the time if you can.

I’m expecting it to come up though.

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TheCanyon · 26/03/2020 20:10

Ex off his own back has sent an extra 100 this month. Pretty odd behaviour for him. But then there was no discussion between us about dd going to his or not, it was just assumed she was staying here, and she will until lockdowns lifted. Though he works on the rigs, so they are used to not seeing each other for weeks at a time.

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HugeAckmansWife · 27/03/2020 07:29

It's worked out over the whole year, so if you miss contact now, ideally it will be made up later in the year. Only if income changes by more than 25% or the number of overnights goes up into the next bracket should it change in between 12 month reviews

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moolady1977 · 27/03/2020 07:35

My partners ex put their daughter into isolation for 2 weeks (nothing wrong with her or child just her being spiteful ) I am fully expecting her to ask for more money will she get it hell no if the child had been ill I'd have given her more money but not because of her spiteful reasons

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HugeAckmansWife · 27/03/2020 07:50

Moolady how do you know that? Genuinely curious.

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Selfisolationquery · 27/03/2020 08:04

@HugeAckmanaWife I get it's technically worked out over the whole year but that doesn't really help someone now who was expecting their ex to look after the DC x number of nights this month

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moolady1977 · 27/03/2020 08:13

@HugeAckmansWife I know this because we have facetimed the daughter every day with the daughter ringing us 5 minutes before she is ready there is nothing wrong with the child and nothing wrong with the mum apart from spiteful reasons

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slipperywhensparticus · 27/03/2020 08:15

It might be a nice gesture to offer but of they arnt asking I would leave it alone they are probably hoping you wont drop it of your wages go down

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Selfisolationquery · 27/03/2020 08:17

Yes that's true @slipperywhensparticus

I suppose it's swings and roundabouts at the minute isn't it and wages could be lost at any minute, contact could change based on rules etc.

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littlenamechanger · 27/03/2020 08:18

My ex has decided he won't be sending any maintenance whatsoever until further notice, not have DE until further notice. He's a great guy.

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littlenamechanger · 27/03/2020 08:18

*NOR have DS!

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pollysproggle · 27/03/2020 08:28

Ex won't be having DS as usual but I wouldn't expect more money as a result.
It's not anyone's fault he can't go so need for a penalty.
None of us are sick but I don't want to take the risk. Also if DS went to ex and things changed he'd have to stay there which he wouldn't like.

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Luzina · 27/03/2020 08:29

DSD has been with us for 14 day and will be with us until schools reopen. She usually is with us 50% Her mum is frontline nhs and is working a lot of hours and wants her safe with us as we are able to stay at home. DH is going to continue to pay the usual maintenance he pays.

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MsMiaWallace · 27/03/2020 08:42

I did wonder for dads that pay maintenance through the roof due to income attachment orders.
If they're wage is significantly dropped how can they still pay the full amount?
This may cripple the genuine contributors.

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dontdisturbmenow · 27/03/2020 11:01

I too would like to know Moolady that the ex went into isolation for no reason.

How would you know if she's been in contact with someone who's had it? Or that she has mild symptoms that she can hide from her daughter?

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PawPatrolMakesMeDrink · 27/03/2020 11:08

DP is paying full maintenance, He is working from home, DSD won’t be coming over for a fair while as her younger sibling has brittle asthma and as gutting as it is that we won’t see her it’s absolutely for the greater good.
My ex will be paying a reduced maintenance as he has been furloughed on 80% salary.

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Dollyparton3 · 28/03/2020 08:35

Our friend's ex has claimed that he's stopping maintenance for fever as his 18 year old son has technically now "left" school and he's self employed.

Ours won't change at all, allowances are still being paid, maintenance etc. Even though we won't see them for weeks as DSS is high risk. The kids aren't pay per view

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Dollyparton3 · 28/03/2020 08:35

"Forever" not for fever!

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NowSissyThatWalk · 28/03/2020 20:05

I've wondered this too, but we have it the other way around. Usually have the kids 50/50 but are keeping them full time here for the foreseeable. I wonder why we should be paying any CMS at all, as she doesn't have them and we do. Thinking it will balance out as the months progress I suppose.
Personally I don't think it's worth the fight.

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Willyoujustbequiet · 30/03/2020 01:03

If snything I would hope for more maintenance not less. There is a shortage of necessities which has lead to increased prices online. I would hope if NRPs arent having the children due to isolation they do they decent thing and pay extra if possible

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Selfisolationquery · 30/03/2020 07:13

@Willyoujustbequiet the NRPs are affected by price increases too though? Though I do appreciate the sentiment of paying extra if possible and I think that's the key isn't it, if possible and to me it would only be a case of if the RP is struggling, otherwise I do think it will balance out over the year - depending on how long this lasts for.

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TheStuffedPenguin · 30/03/2020 15:10

My H's ex asked for extra maintenance due to having both kids home all the time . He was happy to do so.

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NailsNeedDoing · 30/03/2020 15:17

My ex gave me extra money knowing that he won’t be paying for ds’s food over the weekends he usually would. I did have to drop a hint before he did it though!

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BuzzOffMate · 30/03/2020 16:14

I think it's nice if you can afford it to maybe offer extra but I certainly wouldn't think badly of anyone who couldn't.

I've just been furloughed on 80% and DHs work is dropping. We have SDC a few nights a week. If his ex were to stop them coming and then also expect more maintenance to make up for it, I don't think we could afford it right now frankly.

This is unprecedented and not as simple as it seems in paper - dad sees less, dad pays more. Dad genuinely may not be able to afford to pay more at the moment given the current situation with jobs etc..

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