Husband has DC from previous relationship. We have never taken them abroad and I know this is something DH really wants to do.
We haven't been abroad ourselves apart from 2 years ago during a family emergency we went out to spain for a couple of days (family live there) and so wasn't really a holiday (and wasn't during DHs contact time otherwise he wouldn't have come).
We feel bad as their mother takes them away most years abroad.
However, this year we are finally managing to build up some savings and are trying to buy our first house. DH has been talking about just using some of it to take them abroad in the holidays this year however I don't think we should. It's took us a long time to get the amount together we have so far, just because of varying issues to do with health, jobs, him starting as self employed and I don't want to just splash over a grand of it on a holiday. Surely getting on the ladder is more important?
The way things are going now, we realistically should be able to afford more things like holidays etc... In the near future, his work is going well, mine is a lot more stable now etc...
It's not that we don't take them anywhere, we have relatives in a nice spot of England and we go there for a week or two in the holidays and they love it, close by to the beach, lots of land and things to do.
AIBU to say I don't want to spend our savings on this and want to carry on concentrating on getting a house first. And maybe look to do this next year if things are a bit better financially (which hopefully they should be).
I've been looking online to see if I can get anything a bit cheaper but during the holidays it's just ridiculous as I'm sure a lot of you will know. Even just going and staying with my family in Spain would cost us £1000 in flights.
I feel bad because obviously it's not just my money but it's obviously ten times more expensive because of the children's school holidays and I don't want to use my money on that at the moment.
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AIBU to not want to take the kids abroad during the summer holidays?
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JuniperNet · 27/02/2020 11:19
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