Daughters contact with abusive dad, and stepdad not happy.

Amazongill · 2020-02-27 05:33:26

Hi I don’t know if I should be posting here, how do I start a new thread please if I’m in the wrong place. Ok here goes. I have a 15 yr old daughter with an expert we who was abusive, and was really bad to me and more than once had sex with me when I didn’t want to. Do I was with him 12 years and left him approximately 5 years ago. I have had no contact with him nor do I want to. His relationship with his daughter went from trying to make me get an abortion, to denying she was his to accepting her at 4 yrs of age. Anyway her contact has been sporadic with him, she will fall out with him and not see him for months then he pops back up. Now I’m in a happy settled relationship with a kind man who I love very much. He knows everything that happened. He displays a lot of anger (understandably) towards my ex. Me? I want to move on with my life and be happy, which I have done. Now last week when there was that storm, my daughter asked if she could go to her dads, I said yes but I didn’t want him at the house. Normally my daughter will go down the shop and get picked up there, but it was dark, raining bad and she’s a 15 yr old girl, by the time she was ready he was parked outside the house, doesn’t knock the door, she ran out. Now my current partner went absolutely mad and said he’s not to come to the house. I told him to grow up she’s not walking in the dark on her own in the rain. He said well we are finished then and left. He then went home and out on a bender, which was our 3rd anniversary. He ended up drinking and at a house party and got in the next day at 10 am, We haven’t seen each other for a week now but talk on the fone. We are speaking but we cannot agree on who’s right. He thinks he shouldn’t come here, and I should tell her what he did. Although I love my partner, I refuse to start contact with my ex, saying he can’t park in the street outside my house. Although he was prosecuted for harassment, I never said anything about the rapes because I want to protect my daughter and also my own mental health. I am in a good place, anyway, any advice on if I am being unreasonable to my current partner, how do we resolve it going forward. His family side with him, mine with me. Any help really appreciated as I don’t know where to turn 💔

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