My step son is 11 and over the 6 years we have been in each other’s lives we have bumped heads a few times. Mainly because we are both stubborn.
Tonight however after reminding him to wear glasses to play his computer( he has been given eye exercises from the opticians for eye strain and gets headaches from over exposure to screens) he went in a huff. He wouldn’t speak to me afterwards but this is normal for when he doesn’t like something I have said. However this time something changed, he text him mum to complain about me. Little bit of a back story to his mum, she has tried from day one to control the kids from how long they spend with us to changing days at the drop of a hat to turning them against me. We have previously been through the same situation with my older stepdaughter so can see the start of it with the son. Tonight however, he has told me how much he hates me, we don’t get on at all and he doesn’t want to come here anymore. To say my heart is broken is not close enough. I replied that despite how much he has hurt my feeling with his words I really like him, he is funny and we have had lots of laughs together. His dad was in the room with me as we always show a united front when dealing with anything and I left him to continue the conversation as I was lost for words. The sons reasoning was “well my mum told me to”
I suppose I’m asking if anyone has any advice on where I go from there. I know he is only being used as a pawn in another game meant to hurt us but I am so hurt by his words and lack of remorse that I can’t see a way through this right.
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Step Son has told me he doesn’t like me
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Olivia1810 · 26/01/2020 21:46
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