Hi there,
I was wondering if anyone has any advice of experience on being a step parent. I have raised children of my own and they have flown the nest but I find it incredibly hard not to feel tinges of resentment about the situation I am in now with a lovely and loving step family. I adore my partner and I know this person is truly the love of my life and my soulmate. I also have great relationships with my step children on the whole but definitely more profound with the younger one. I struggle with the absent parent contributing very little and me contributing a huge amount of my income but still not really having much of a say in house rules. I am a bit of a stickler for tidiness and respect on things like short showers reusing towels etc and having friends around when we are not in as parents. So whilst I try and chill and not get too worked up I find if eats away at me inside. Screen time is a huge issue and I am so uncomfortable with the amount of time spent on them by the kids so I try and distance myself by trying to say positive things and offering alternatives. But it doesn't change, so I try and ignore it, but it's in my house that I pay the lions share for so then I feel like I am in an uncomfortable situation in my own home which is crazy right?
I feel like I am the key to the whole thing as if I wan't there we would not be in this house even as I am paid well and I am so totally happy to share this with all of them and actually love them unconditionally but I feel like this.... And I don't want to. Is this normal? How do I defeat it? I just feel like there is no recognition of my role somehow, the father is a deity yet contributes literally nothing and is barely in their life. I go to all the school events and sports stuff and he never does. It just feels thankless and one day I know they will get it but how do i get through this?
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updown1234 · 24/01/2020 11:36
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