When I met married my husband our children were in their late teens. Perfect. He moved into my home. My two children finished college and moved out of my home to start their careers and be on their own. They visit often and stay the night on occasion. Great, right?
Next thing, I knew, my husband asked if his son could move in. Yes, I said. But he must get a job and get his own place. He destroyed my home. He tore up in my mint condition home. My husband paid for the fixes and let him know it was unacceptable to do that and he's grown. I love and like my SS, so I forgave him but told him if he tears up anything else he is no longer welcomed He eventually moved out, then moved back, then moved out.
I told my husband that I'm tired. I need my space and I want to keep the house clean. Then, he tells me his daughter wants to move in. I was going to lose it because I just told him I needed space. So, she moves in for six months, it was odd. She barely spoke and avoided me at all costs. She moved back with her mom who lives out of town. We get a minor 6 months break as my SS moves in and out. Then, my husband tells me my SD wants to move with us again for three-months to figure things out. I told him she wanted to stay with us. He assured me she was just taking a break. There months!!! That's a long time to live for free! Sure enough, a few days before it was time for her to leave, she said she wanted to stay. Really? You are grown!!! I would like to have my house alone with my husband. You're welcome to visit, but not stay.
To top things off, I pay 99% of the bills and I'm exhausted with everything and being the nice SM and nice wife. I just want to be able to walk around my home the way I want to without a bunch of grown folks who are now 29 in my house every day using my Internet, water, and electric, and eating all my food.
My husband asked me what should be the plan. I said, get a job and move out in 60 days. He said she doesn't have any money. My response is why did she quit her job and move here broke? He begged and pleaded to give her 1.5 years. Yeah, really! I told him, she must have a full-time job and move out in 4 months. Otherwise, she will pay $425 for the remaining three months with a drop-dead move out date. A total of 7 months max.
Now, he must take her to work and pick her up from work. His son also needs a ride to and from work. His other two sons want to move in now.
I love my husband, SD, and SS, but some days, I feel like selling my house and running for the border! I don't want to rethink my marriage, but I'm frustrated.
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RH1313 · 21/01/2020 02:58
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