Young adult (early 20’s). Blended Family sdc who have lived with us over 15 years. Mum has poor mental health so I have always been in Mum role if that makes sense. It’s always been normal for us.
I do get in really well with sd but since she was about 16 she can have times when she is awful to me. Honestly makes my life a misery. Every family holiday I am on egg shells (this has been observed and commented on by others too so not just me).
I have thought there could be many reasons for this , probably feels guilty about mum etc.
The reason I am on here now. She has honestly just ruined Xmas and am at the end of my tether. Started Xmas eve - she was upset about her mum, I tried to comfort her, literally told me to fuckoff (doesn’t usually speak to me like this) and barely spoke to me since. Xmas day was okay but from Boxing Day onwards . It created an awful atmosphere for everyone else.
We are sort of okay now but only because I made a big effort a couple of days ago for everyone else’s sake. It could all kick off again and I am just at the end of my tether.
She is at uni so doesn’t live at home but only in next city so comes home a lot. I can’t wait for her to go back now which is an awful situation.
Everyone suffers - other dc don’t know how to be as she n be awful to everyone and I feel it causes issues for us all. Had a heart too heart with my dd who said everyone is fed up of it (she doesn’t know the cause either but has said it’s nothing I do wrong dsd is just being horrible to me).
The thing is even dsd day why she behaves like this.
For my own sanity how do I deal with this?
Sorry for long post - trying to include relevant info. Has anyone tried family counselling and does it help?
Dh doesn’t help. I have pleaded with him to intervene but I honestly feel he is scared of jeopardising his relationship with her so let’s her get away with it. He will tell me he has spoken to her but not what’s been said and nothing seems to change.
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stargazer2030 · 02/01/2020 08:13
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