My DSD recently turned 13. We all usually make a big deal out of her birthday. I make a cake (she doesn't like commercial cakes), take time to chose a gift she would like, we do an activity. She reminds me of her birthday weeks in advance (she sees me every other weekend) and sometimes even asks for a specific gift. She even writes "happy birthday to me" in her school agenda. This is how important it is to her.
This year, not only we celebrated her birthday the same day, but I organised a "spa experience" for her 2 weeks later to teach her how to use body products her father got her, which she enjoyed. Last year, I made sushi with her in addition to other activities and gifts...
When it's her father's birthday, she always makes at least a card. Few months earlier, it was our toddler's birthday and she really insisted in coming to be with him and went with her mother to buy a gift. She also cares about her older brother's birthday's and even my daugther's (her step sister). When it's my birthday (3 weeks after hers), I only get a dry "happy birthday". She once made a card for me, it was when she was 8 (!).
This year, I got a ring from my teenage step-sons who are both busy working, studying and girlfriends. DSD doesn't have direct contact with me, but my DH who makes a big deal out of my birthday didn't tell me anything. Only the next evening when I told him that I was touched by his son's congratulations, he casually mentionned that DSD also did it, but she said that she forgot (he reminded them all the day before). I guess she said it in a way that was easy to forget too as we spent the day together.
She's with us this weekend and at some point during the evening, she removed her earphone and said: "by the way, happy birthday, how old are you now?". Then replaced the earphones.
I feel hurt and I wonder if I should continue making a big deal out of her birthday if clearly mine doesn't matter and is so easy to forget. Honestly, her older brothers don't have any reason to care more, but they take a moment to do it.
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Myfairlady2 · 07/12/2019 10:52
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