Ok firstly I'm not entirely sure if fathers are allowed on mums.net , let me know
Anyway I've recently split with my ex partner for the 2nd time but this time it's permanent, the first time was 6 months in and maybe I shouldn't have gone back but hindsight is a wonderful thing.
she has two teenage kids , one 17yr old boy and a 16yr old girl.
Brief background , I have two children of my own who live with there mother and we get on ok , there's a little bit of friction now and again but it's generally ok , I have epilepsy so it's not really safe for me to have my children on my own so I have to spend time with there mother when I see them . Which my ex didn't like which I understand but she didn't compromise with me at all .
She wanted me to play a paternal role to her children which I was fine with but I didn't really click with her son , I tried but there was just no bond whatsoever but her daughter and I were really close , I loved her like she was my own and I still do .
Now her mother and me weren't married so she wasn't officially my step daughter . I know she's gonna be angry and upset with me for leaving her mother , I was public enemy number one last time and I've not heard off her at all this .
I really don't wanna lose her out of my life but it would have been wrong to pretend everything was fine with her mother when it really wasn't . The thought of never seeing her again brings me to tears.
I want to write her a letter to maybe explain my side of it or tell her that I will always be here for her and I hope she will eventually forgive me.
I was told by someone that since I was no longer with her mother that it would be inappropriate for me to send a letter to a 16 yr old who isn't officially my daughter.
My argument is that if her mother and I were married it would be fine but since there's no piece of paper it's now inappropriate
What should I do and what do you think ?
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5cottG1980 · 29/11/2019 19:17
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