Hey!
I'm hoping you can all give me some tips to help me become a great stepmum to my partner's son.
He's had a relationship with him since he was born but his ex has done her best to stop him from seeing him since before he was even born, so the relationship has been off-and-on. He's just taken her to court at last and won rights to have him over every other weekend. The littlun is 3.5 years old, I've met him a few times when he's been to stay sporadically in the past and we got on well, but we haven't seen each other for 8 months. During that 8 months, his mum has been telling him that I'm a bad woman and I'm not very nice (she's still angry that they broke up, she's never even met me). Obviously that's sad for him because it's made him feel worried about coming to stay with me!
We also have another baby who is 8 months old who his son hasn't met yet. Now that the court order is here, we just want to try and create a normal and consistent life for him and provide the warmest most loving family we can, in the hope that it will override the tension he deals with between his mum and dad, and make sure he knows families don't always have to be so full of tension.
I'm not one of these "natural with kids" kinda person. I'm loving and warm but ive always just been one to let relationships develop naturally rather than force it. However, I want him to feel safe that I'm not a bad woman, which I think she'll be telling him for the rest of his life, so I need some top tips for how best to handle it!
It would be easy to say "let him do whatever he wants and he will love you" but I also need him to follow the same house rules as the rest of us!
Thanks in advance.
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Rosiew16 · 24/11/2019 09:33
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