I just wanted to know if I'm in the wrong here. I'm also new to the lingo on here so forgive me. Me and my partner have 2 children, DD who is 14 months and DS who is 2 months.He has a daughter from a previous relationship DSD who is 14. We have been together for 10 years and him having a child was never a problem. I wasn't one to expect him to buy me things, take me out all the time etc because he had a child to provide for. I would happily have weekends cancelled with him for his DD and so on.
Ever since our 2 children have been born, he has contributed NOTHING towards the things they need, nappies, milk, clothes etc. He does however pay the rent and bills so I must give him credit for that but anything our children need has been zero from him. And I'm not exaggerating, it's literally zero. All through both pregnancies and both our children's lives so far he hadn't bought a thing! Anything I couldn't afford my Mum had to buy it. Not even a pack of baby wipes he's bought for our babies. Whereas, for his own DD he buys everything, expensive clothes, trainers, days out, school fees anything she needs. Which he absolutely should don't get me wrong but he can't keep only buying for 1 child when he has 3. He covers child maintenance payments on top of all the things he buys her and still won't even say 'ok we've run out of nappies for our babies so I will buy it'. His DD guilts him into buying her stuff because she's jealous of our 2 other children (she hasn't even met her lil brother yet because she doesn't want to) If his DD asks for money or clothes etc and my partner doesn't have the money he finds a way, he borrows it or gets it on credit he does what ever he has to do. When I ask him to buy nappies or milk because we've run out he says Sorry I've got no money. And trust me I wish I was exaggerating when I say he buys nothing for our children ever. It's like he feels that because he lives with our children and sees them everyday, that all his money should go to his DD.
Baring in mind that he does pay rent and bills am I wrong in thinking that he should help me buy things that our babies need?
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MsTalie · 19/11/2019 15:43
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