I’m a step mum to 3 boys that come over every other weekend and once during the week.
I have been with their dad for nearly 4 years.
Not going to lie it’s hard work and drains the life out of me.
But This issue is about Xmas.
My partner doesn’t spend a lot on them for bday or Xmas. They usually get one big present and one small.
He could afford more and put more effort into it if he was more organised. He leaves everything to last minute and therefore has little money to share between everyone at Xmas. Last year I got a pair of 99p earrings from eBay!
I always end up feeling sorry for the kids as I buy my son lots of gifts and stocking fillers because I have planned for Xmas and can afford to.
I think the kids like to see lots of presents rather than just one or two so I end up buying them loads and between 3 of them it’s a lot of money j spend.
He knows that if he doesn’t spend anything I can’t sit back and let them have hardly anything on Xmas so he knows I’ll end up buying extra.
This year I’m reluctant to because my son wants a laptop for his school work and that’s going to wipe me out.
I’ve already bought them little bits but no where near what I usually do and what he’ll be expecting me to.
What should I do??
Feel guilty for not buying for them or find the extra money somehow and provide for them and feel totally pissed off at him???
Ps
He has money to go to his snooker matches twice a week and spend 10-20 quid on drink each time. Grrrrrr
I’ve tried talking to him about it but he just says he deserves to have a life
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Abcdefgh12345 · 14/11/2019 08:44
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