Hi everyone,
Im fairly new to this, so forgive the long post. I will give some background, i have been married to my husband for 1 year together for 5 years. I have 2 children (9 years and 5 years) from previous and he has 1 child (5 years) from previous. We met when both our kids were babies. I am also pregnant with our first together.
We were in an arrangement for my step child to come and stay every second weekend. For some time we have noticed severe behavioural problems with step child for their age and stage, very sexualised behaviour has been noted for some time such as humping on pillows, being very interested in trying to watch their father in the shower etc, we were having to have him lock the bathroom door when the child is here. The behaviour is very erratic also, with the child making lies up to their mother for attention such as, i sent the child outside in the pouring rain to stand for 1 hour while me and my children watched a movie, then they had to chap on a neighbours door to let them in. Bearing in mind i am a senior social worker in a child protection team, this allegation would lose me my job not at least suspend me while its investigated. Anyway this is just one of many lies, but knowing the child is only 5 years old really has me puzzled, i have never came across a child of this age with this intelligence level.
Since this the child has been asking to stay at my mother in laws house on these weekends with my husband, meaning he is away every second weekend. I am due baby any day, but i feel that him staying away so much is causing a major rift between us all and when asking him to stay at home with the child he says thats what the child wants so thats what hes doing. This is 3 hours drive from me.
I guess this is just more of a rant than anything, i have tried everything for my step child to like me and enjoy coming but nothing works. I really feel like giving up on my marraige. Has anyone been in a similar position?
Thanks for reading x
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Amosh21 · 09/11/2019 23:09
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