So there's me, my DP, my DSS & my DD who is 1. DSS is 6, and each year I've felt vomit in my mouth watching my partners parents (who aren't together) ask my DSS what he wants for Christmas, last year he went to my MILs and ran the tree shook it 'this is my sonic costume' etc. No surprise. No fault of his bless him, just grand parents who want that sense of 'I got you that' rewarding feeling, which I understand.
This year DSS mum calls us 'we need to do something he's just turned round and said 'Santa doesn't buy me presents you lot do' so we're upset he's starting to lose the magic. We're sticking to Christmas lists, posting them, others asking us for ideas from the list and then when they give them his presents saying 'I asked Father Christmas to bring it to you' rather than 'Nanny bought you that' lol.
It's long winded but we're trying to keep the magic alive. My DP sent out a text. This weekend
MIL - 'ooo I was gonna day you could go and get something from upstairs for me then but all your Christmas presents I BROUGHT you are upstairs'
FIL wife 'come show me what you want me and grandad to get you for Christmas'.
I'm like.... wtf? This isn't how it's meant to be. Us, DSS mother and her family are all trying and they're just so desperate for recognition of buying it that they're ruining it for him!! Also, my DD doesn't know better yet but next year I will kick off more because it affects her but I feel so protective of saving the magic for him, I don't know how to get it across without making it too much of a big deal!
I'm kinda just venting, kinda looking for advice, I'm just fed up of looking like the one who's trying to boss people about 😂! My DP is like 'well I've told them, so not much else I can do'
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Italianshark · 23/10/2019 11:37
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