DP and I are having a discussion about the bedroom situation at my home. I have 2 DS (17 and 13), he has 1 DS (12). I live in a good sized 2 bedroom.
A year ago DSS had to move in with us due to a situation with his mum. As the bedroom situation was far from ideal, we rejigged the layout downstairs to create a small bedroom for my eldest DS, put my youngest and DSS in the biggest room and we had the other bedroom. Plan was to put up a stud wall in the big bedroom so DS2 and DSS had their own space too.
Fast forward a few months and DSS decided that he didn't want to live here anymore - wont give a reason, although we suspect it's because here I have boundaries and expectations, like tidy up after yourself, act a bit independently and gadgets off at a reasonable time. Nothing that DP thinks is unreasonable. But his parents live in a huge house, dote on DSS and do EVERYTHING for him, so DSS went to stay there one weekend and refused to come back. So DP and DSS now live there. DP stays here 2/3 times a week (depending on his shifts - is easier to get to work from here), DSS no more than once a week. DSS wont be coming back to live here as his school has now been changed to one near DP's parents so he can get there and back on his own.
So, the bedroom situation is now that DS1 has small partitioned room downstairs, I have small bedroom and DS2 has a huge room which he shares with DSS no more than once a week.
I want to switch rooms with DS2 - he have the smaller room with a double bed (for him - he's already 5' 9" and a single will be too small soon) with a single bunk above (for DSS); I have the bigger room so I can have more space for my things plus have office space for work again (the office space was what was partitioned off for DS1 room). However, DP thinks that will be yet another reason for DSS to not want to stay here as he's being treated 'unfavourably' by not getting a double bed. I think DSS has his own room at DP's parents home so if he wants a double bed get him one there.
Any thoughts, suggestions, opinions are appreciated. Thank you.
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CBADotCom · 08/10/2019 10:38
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