Feeling sad for my partner.

[ThisMustBeMyDream]

This is just a vent/place to let off steam really.
I feel so sorry for my partner tonight. He has spent 2.5 years trying to see his daughter without trouble. His ex girlfriend seems to just want to continuously cause disharmony however. The latest incident occured yesterday at pick up time. Partner said he knocked on the door, and her 4 year old daughter answered (!) and turned to shout to her mum "that horrible man is here". Partner asked his ex why her other daughter had referred to him as that, and she told him it was what his own daughter (who is 2.5) refers to him as. So apparently a 2 year old has come up with this by herself, no one in the house has influenced her in any way. She has never once referred to him as "horrible man" interestingly enough, she calls him daddy, or by his name (ex had a new partner she strongly encouraged to be known as daddy which has caused no end of confusion for this child - partner now no longer on the scene).

My partner looks so down. The acceptance that this is always what it will be like. That she simply will not change. She does not want a man involved with "her kids" (other child doesn't see her dad). She will never promote the relationship, instead doing whatever it takes to sabotage it.

I wish there was a way of making it all okay. There just isn't. This is the rest of his life. And it's fucking sad. I am sad. For him and his daughter.

[Contraceptionismyfriend]

That's so horrible :(

Just keep him going Op.
a friend of ours is finally reaping the rewards of never slagging off his children's mother regardless of the shit she did or said to their children.

They will now openly defend their father when she criticises him, they will ask him why she says horrible things that's aren't true.

Just tell him to look at her when she's with him. She will form her own opinion.

[Rachelover60]

Oh I do feel sorry for him. Of course I don't know what went on but I feel, whatever goes wrong in our relationships, the children should not be influenced.

If the ex has a four year old from an ex and a 2.5 year old with your partner, and now has another partner, she has certainly been busy!

His daughter will get to know him better and judge for herself in years to come.

[FieldsOf]

This is parental alienation and is a form of child abuse. I'd suggest he organises mediation and fast, being clear that it is not acceptable and coming up with a parenting plan with clear guidelines that neither parent will bad mouth or respond negatively to the other in front of the child.
Maybe watch this with your DP and try to come up with a plan. His DD doesn't deserve this.