My step daughters are 13 and 15 difficult ages but I have known them for 7 years and lived together for 5 with my own dcs 13 and 16!
It's been so difficult to build any sort of relationship with either of them, especially since living together, I hate to say it but their mum has had a lot to do with this, jealousy I think mainly, I know it's hard to see another woman with her dcs but I knew not to stand on her toes and she is their mum. They live with us 50% of the time though so I do a lot for them.
I feel like an invisible woman to them these days, I'm a nobody, not relevant to them. I've taken them out on my own for meals, shopping chat to them,play games with them,help with various matters still they struggle to even speak to me. I've tried backing off and just being ever so nice but not going out of my way for my own sanity if nothing else. Still they treat me like a no one and I'm even finding the same with their friends, best friend will chat away with my dh but not me, I'm invisible or the evil step mum. I don't know how to get out of this rut or if it's even possible. I can't force them to like me or accept me can I?
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sillycat72 · 28/09/2019 14:29
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