@Giggles89
There was a thread on this site about a week ago where a biological mother was feeling resentful about the fact that her daughter really liked her SM and would talk about her and all the fun, interesting things they did together. This lady said she knew she was being unreasonable but that in reality she was terrified that her daughter would favour her SM over her and so she wanted to know how to make sure that it didn’t happen.
The responses flew in as they do and the next thing you know is, the majority are saying that the contact schedule should be changed so that the SM and the biological father don’t get to see the little girl every weekend but every other weekend and that they should have the little girl a couple of nights in the week so that they did the ‘boring’ school night routine and the little girl wouldn’t think her SM was so fun anymore. At no point did anyone point out what was in the best interests of the child’s well-being or happiness. The child was happy and her mother couldn’t bear that it was another woman who made her child happy.
Why am I saying this? I’m saying it because what you are fighting is resentment. Now you are becoming resentful just like the biological mother is, I’ve been there too and it was a hideous feeling. She isn’t interested in the well-being or happiness of the child, she is solely focussed on alienating the child from anything or anyone that she considers a threat to her ego. People then dress this up as love and profess that they only have the child’s best interests at heart.
I think it’s really crucial that you do your best to let go of the resentment you feel because damn, you do not want to end up like her. It’s a tough emotion but there are a lot of ways to combat it, boxing, kick-boxing, or any exercise, meditation, yoga, journal writing, painting... basically anything that allows you to express your feelings in a positive and controlled way. It’s the holding onto the emotion that does the negative damage in my humble opinion.
Good luck