Dp has a 8 yr old daughter who lives in France(this is apart from his other 3 who live in the UK and my dd)and she has recently started coming to visit us after years of her mum being reluctant/difficult. She is a lovely child and we rub along ok BUT she doesn't speak english and my French is pitiful. Normally dss translates for us but he is away for the summer.
Her mum just left dp a message to day that he could have her for two weeks at the end of August. I have said no, just one week. I cannot spend two weeks with a child I cannot communicate with whilst dp works all day everyday(he cannot afford to take more than one or two days off). Dp doesn't have a clue about how much extra work a child you can't speak to is and frankly he does none of the work as he is always working to pay for all his children. I have my own work and dd to look after too.
So I am left to take up the slack.
He thinks that her mum is going to get the hump and say she can't come at all if it is not for two weeks. I have just drawn a line in the sand. She is a good kid, I do like her but I am not a doormat and he has to realise it.
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Carmenere · 05/08/2007 17:20
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