More of an AIBU obviously.
DH has 4 children between 6-12. No massive back story. Been together 4 years. No big dramas, kids are great and I think over the years I've carved out my own kind of 'cool aunt' role. I care for them very very much and we have a great relationship.
Three weeks ago I broke my back falling from a height. I've fractured my lower vertabrae and am in a back brace until mid September I'm in pain, off work which I love, can't walk very far without having to stop, can't drive, can't bend down without being in pain etc etc. Dosed up with oramorph and codeine but generally am feeling miserable and can feel that ominpresent black cloud looming, which makes me want to cry.
DH and I haven't been great during this if I'm honest. He's been amazing but he had a bit of a cry earlier because he said he feels like nothing he does is right. This made me feel awful and if I'm honest I probably have been more difficult with him recently (he did say he understood why)
Anyway, to my predicament.
We have the kids all this week because of summer. I'd planned lots of things to do with them, excursions, fêtes, open days, events etc, before this happened. (Now obviously can't go on these as not enough room in car) DH is working from home tomorrow and when I say he's working, I mean he's told me his calendar and it's literally back to back meetings.
I told him I'd struggle to watch the kids and could he ask his (usually very happy to) mum to watch them just until 3 ish.
10 mins later, he came in, said 'She's out all day tomorrow' and left the room.
I spoke to him, said I feel like he's taken me for granted, I'm in pain, is there anyone else etc, what would you do if you were single, etc.
Even just a bit of understanding and appreciation would be nice - AIBU to expect that? Just a 'Oh, broken, thanks so much' but I haven't had anything.
I don't know how much of this is my pain/general fed upness.
I'm resigned to having them all day tomorrow while he's on his laptop/Skype etc. They can be quite a handful though. I just want to rest and get better tbh.
Any ideas/advice/words of support anyone has I'd be so grateful - even ideas for rainy day activities! (The cluedo board is wearing thin from over use)
AIBU to maybe want a thank you? I'm fed up.
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BrokenBad · 11/08/2019 21:13
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