To wonder if we are enough....

[letsallcountsheep]

NC for this...

I have 2DSC and 1DC. DSC with us every weekend. They are on holiday with their DM this week and won't be back until Monday AM so will miss their time with their DF this weekend(tomorrow)

Since last weekend all OH can say is how much he is missing them (doesn't see or speak to them during the week)

I get it, I do. If I wasn't going to see DC for 12 days I would miss them as well but knowing I will be seeing them on X date would be something for me to look forward to.

Then there's the fact that our DC doesn't get much time 1 on 1 with DF I would have thought he would jump at the chance to spend time with them.

I don't know what I expect from posting this but just wondered if this was normal? moping around waiting to see them while still having other family members at home

[Teddybear45]

Having 1 child doesn’t offset not being able to spend time with the others. He’s allowed to miss his kids and even mope to you if he wants, provided he’s actually doing stuff with the kid he has at home.

[Pipandmum]

Are they older? If they are of an age he does activities with them as opposed to a toddler and a baby?
But yes you could say what about the kids already here...
He may miss them but presumably they are having a good time on holiday, so he should be happy about that. Maybe he’s missing the holiday! Are you planning on going away?

[WhiteCat1704]

Can you tell him how he is making you feel?

What are you supposed to do about him missing them? He shouldn't be putting this on you..it's unfair

[SandyY2K]

I don't think it's a case of you not being enough... he just misses them.

Can you get him to do anything with your DC at home? Is he actually a hands on involved father with your DC/DSC, or is it all about fun times on the weekend. Does he go to parent's evenings? Does he know anything about their extra curricular activities? Or is this performance just for show. Does he actually take an interest in them as individuals?

I'm suprised he doesn't have any contact with them at all during the week. Is that his choice?

I think ppl sometimes behave in a way they think is expected of them, rather than how they truly feel.

[Whycantistaymotivated]

He's very hands on, goes to parents evenings, takes them to their activities (which they are missing this weekend) older DSC is preteen age.

Doesn't have contact during the week due to difficult ex, they don't have their own phones yet

[Whycantistaymotivated]

Name change fail 🙈

[letsallcountsheep]

Ahhh that's better(bit pointless now)

He's not a Disney dad, will play with all his DCs but just feels like he's just waiting for them rather than living in the day to day iyswim

[user1493413286]

I know what you mean; I’ve had to point out to DH that we don’t need to wait until DSD is with us to do things with our DD otherwise she’s missing out and will notice this more as she gets older