Myself, DP and DSD9 were all at a wedding together at the weekend.
Background: Myself and DSD have a great relationship, she's genuinely made it an absolute dream to be part of their lives and there have been no bumps at all along the way. I've seen with her dad for 4 years, known her 3 years and myself and DP are getting married next year - she's excited, happy and all is good.
At this wedding, (DP's family) myself and DSD hardly see my DP. I'm a little pissed for but it's his family, most of whom he's not seen in over a year so I let him get on with it and myself and DSD have a lovely day chatting to family, dancing and playing.
Later in the night DP is chatting to a friend of the groom and we go over and say hello. Friend can't believe that DSD is DP kid and is asking all these questions about what it's like to have 'such young parents'. DP is 29, DSD 9 so hardly anything too scandalous. The friend (who is very drunk at this point) then says 'OH SO IS SHE (me) AN EVIL STEP MUM?!' DSD says no she's not, that I'm the best. All lovely. The friend then says to DSD 'Aw that's so nice, do you love her then?'
I love DSD very very much and I'm sure she knows it. I don't make a fuss about it and would rarely say to her in a 1 on 1 situation that I do. This is because, although I have no doubt that we have a good relationship and she likes me being around, I don't know if she would be comfortable saying it back and I don't want to put her in the position of feeling like she has to.
So at this point I just give DSD a hug and say 'awk don't put her on the spot like that, we're best friends and that's all that matters'.
Steaming guy doesn't let it go. 'No that's not what I asked - I asked her if she loves you' and on it goes. DSD gets upset, but I patch it over and we leave. We all go home happily, laugh at the drunk annoying man and enjoy the rest of the break.
We now however have her mum on the phone, raging that we've put DSD in such an awkward position and that she's been really upset about it.
I'm surprised, because she did genuinely seem fine for the 3 days after that we had her with us and gave no indication that she was upset still. I'm so so so annoyed at the stupid drunk stranger for causing this!
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whatthehelldowecare · 26/07/2019 12:45
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