I am finding things really tough with DSS lately - he is 12 and although things have always been difficult they seem to be becoming worse.
He used to be a lovely little kid - albeit a little insecure but now he's acting very entitled.
His mother spends money like it grows on trees although she works part time and still lives with her mum who bails her out.
She refuses to wear anything that isn't designer, drives a flash (but old) car and this is all rubbing off on DSS who goes on and on about how much something costs, refuses to wear anything that isn't designer, has a new pair of trainers every 3 months or so at £100 a time.
He over eats, he is very overweight for his age, extremely unfit , doesn't do any exercise, sits on his xbox after school until after 11pm most nights, gets everyone to run around after him, if he leaves something at our house he will ring my DP and get him to fetch it over and same with his mum when he's at our house.
He has kicked off massively because we are getting married (even though he tells my DP repeatedly that he really likes me and is so glad he met me!) and is refusing to come to the wedding which obviously exw is supportive of - said if either of his parents get married or have another child they are dead to him!
HIs attitude when he comes over is disgusting, he leaves stuff around all over the place, doesn't put his washing in the basket or will wear something for ten minutes and then throw it in the basket so i have to pick out what i think is genuinely dirty from the clean stuff thrown on the floor
Every time i bring this up with DP he doesn't see the issue, always sticks up for DSS and says he can't compete with the main parent (his mum) as she has more of an influence on him so anything he says or tries to enforce will just fall on deaf ears.
He now wants a key as he has changed schools closer to where we live and wants to be able to walk to our house until his mum finishes work as her house is too far to walk to - she will then collect him from ours and he will make her a cup of tea whilst she is waiting for him to get ready!! I feel extremely uncomfortable about her wandering around our house whilst either me or DP are not here but DP says he doesn't see how he can enforce her not coming in because if we aren't there we won;t know and DSS will just not tell us
Am I right in thinking this situation is just going to get worse and not better??
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doublestrengthsquash · 25/07/2019 13:30
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