I don’t have any biological children, just my step son. Recently me and his dad have been arguing about me and his son not having a bond. He is suspected autistic/add and does not communicate with me, only to ask for snacks. To the point where I stood next to him one day wearing gym gear and he shouted to his dad ‘is Emily going to the gym’ and didn’t just ask me. He is at our house most of the time, his mum will palm him off all the time which is horrible but poor lad is used to it. When he is here he disappears up to his room to play games and I don’t hear a peep out of him until he’s hungry again and even then he brings his Nintendo down ... and my other half wonders why I have no bond with him. Other half refuses to acknowledge that a bond can’t be built through a closed door and just thinks I resent his son. Every time I ask to do things together as a family I get told ‘no he’ll get bored’... we took him to Blackpool pleasure beach and he just had the face on all day- no matter what we did- because of game addiction. My other half doesn’t think game addiction is a thing and just leaves him to play all the time... 16 hours I counted one day and he’s 10! It’s the school holidays and I’m just worried about looking after him. I really want to build this relationship with my stepson because I’m marrying his dad and would like to make a family. But at the minute it’s all very one sided, I’m doing all the typical ‘mum things’ and caring for him but having zero back in return. What do I do? It’s affecting my relationship with my partner
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