So I have 2 sds 13 and 15 and my own 2 dcs 13 and 16. Sds mum has always moved around and in the past been pretty unstable and caused us a lot of grief in the process. But the last few years she met someone new and things had been a lot better. She's now decided to rent a house 40 miles away, didn't tell anyone till she picked up the keys. The 15 year old is about to do her last year at school doing her GCSEs. Her mum still reckons they can commute to school. We have a 50/50 arrangement so it wouldn't be every day but wtf is she thinking, sd15 is so angry with her mum, she doesn't want to move all her friends etc are here. We've obviously said they can live here in the week, but what a selfish thing to do. She's being very evasive were she's moving to as well won't give us the address.
I'm worried for so many reasons, firstly how they are going to cope in September, my dh is getting stressed about it all and that's worrying me as he had a heart attack last year! I'm worried about how this will effect us all . Of course they can stay here, we would never say anything else, but it becomes so stressful with 4 teenagers in the house. It wasn't long ago they told me they didn't like me, was never given a reason just said that's how they felt, which upset me because I do everything for them, it also upset my 2 dcs, they don't want to hear that. I did pull away a little to protect myself but if they are going to live here full time I'm worried about the pressure it's all going to have on us all. None of this is their fault they are being let down by their mum, so I'm being strong for them and my dh but inside I'm worried about what all this can bring. Does anyone understand?
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sillycat72 · 16/07/2019 07:34
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