My OH and I have been together about 3 years, both divorced living together for last few months ( we're mid 50's ) I work a stressful full time job about 40 hours a week and he's self employed, often working 3 or 4 days a week.
My kids are 20 & 28, he's got 2 older kids from first marriage & 11 yr old from second marriage who he has overnight once a week and alternate weekends.
I've just been criticised for not wanting to spend more of my free time with her when she's here, this arose because I didn't want to go to a dance show she was in yesterday - my OH says he was challenged by his DD , his ex wife and his ex mother in law asking where I was and then had a go at me for not wanting to be there ( yep he found it 'awkward' explaining why I wasn't there.....' )
His expectation is that I attend these things ( and I have - mostly - because I feel I should, not because I want to, after all I've done it twice over already ....) and because of my limited free time I admit I want it to be quality time . When it's just my OH and me we always do things together at a weekend but when he has his DD I do factor in things for me .....
I am hoping that as she gets older we'll find a common ground and shared interests , but right now it's not happening. Do I compromise my free time even further or maintain semi independence at weekends and risk further upset?
I can see this being a relationship breaker .....and I'm the bad one
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No1toerag · 30/06/2019 19:51
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