So I’ve been seeing my partner now for over 2 years, he is very much involved in my 2 children’s lives and they adore him, he stays over practically everyday but when he has his children he goes back home as simply there isn’t enough room for all 4 kids here...so when he has his kids we don’t see him...not a big deal for me for the time being as as we are not in a position to be moving at this moment in time.
Anyway, I see his children maybe 2 to 3 times in the month when he brings them over so the kids can play together etc. Now this is the part I need to know am I being emotional, unreasonable any advice would be great.
Over the summer holidays I need to work a few days and I know for a fact he will he off at least 1 day of the week during the summer term to be with his kids, I asked him to help me out with having mine for the few hours I’m at work (as my kids father is useless with helping) so I can gain some extra money and he seemed a little reluctant. He said you expect me to have the kids for 3 days in a row and I said no just help me with one day at least and then he said you’ll just ask week after week and I said yeah just for the summer holidays that is all!
He said maybe ask your family to help out etc...what I wanted him to say was I’ll try help you out when I can but he only said that when I had to say I didn’t like the way he would throw it on my family first, I said to him he is my partner I should be be able to rely on him when push comes to shove. I’m not asking him to take days off as I would never do that but if i know he will be home I would’ve expected him to help me as I would do the same. His excuse is also that it’ll be too much to have all 4 kids...they’re between the ages of 6-11 so not babies.
I just feel as if he’s not in it 100% to make us work as a family should, I would do it for him no questions asked or any issues.
I’m not trying to force him to be a father to my children, but I see it as if we are in it for the long run we have to treat the children equally and do things as a family would be it looking after kids so one can go to work etc.
I am just feeling as if he’s not ready to take this responsibility on of being with someone with children and blending our families to make it “real” if you get what I mean and it’s hurting because it’s been now over 2 years we are together so I didn’t expect this.
Any advice would be great I need to vent to someone as I have no one to speak to as I’m too embarrassed
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Londongirl07 · 24/05/2019 00:31
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