Hi
I have been with my partner for 2 years. We don't live together. We both have children. We both have our kids EOW but on different weekends, therefore meaning we never get a weekend without kids.
Our kids never get to spend time together because of this, and after 2 years they hardly know each other.
I feel like me and my partner also have had a fairly tough time getting to know each other as there is always a child around. I do get family to baby sit now and again but don't like to ask too much.
My partner doesn't really like to do things at the weekend with me and my kids if it's something his child might like too, as they would miss out. As you can imagine, this does mean that most of the time I'm doing things with my kids without him, and vice versa.
I have asked my ex if there is a possibility of swapping weekends, but as I expected, it was a no. This is fair enough as it is due to his work pattern.
I have asked my partner to see if his ex would be happy to swap their weekends but he has refused to ask her, as he says this may cause aggro and wants to keep the peace.
Does anyone have any ideas on how we can go forward? It is not ideal that we get no alone time, or that our kids never see each other (we do occasionally take our children for a bit on the weekend we don't have them to ensure they at least recognise each other lol, but that can't be a long term solution as it eats in to the ex's access time).
Thank you
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Lilyflower2000 · 13/04/2019 15:29
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