I don't know where to turn, so I came here.
At the moment, I feel so unhappy with my life situation. I'm a stepmum to an 8yo boy and have been for 5 years now. It started out rocky, then we made it to such a happy place through a lot of time and effort and everything clicked. Now we seem to have reverted and I resent my partner and his son so much. I resent the financial decisions that my partner makes when it comes to his kid. I always end up footing his monetary shortfalls because he has bought so many toys and sweets and am made to feel wrong for wanting to be paid back. Although not all issues with money stem from this. Partner now also gets his son almost every weekend, and plans for him to move in with us too. I didn't sign up for that, it was never part of our plan and if it had have been stated to me, I probably wouldn't still be in this relationship. All I do is go to work, come home to cook and clean, listen to my partner moaning and bit**ing at me for everything and listen to my stepson giving me cheek at the weekends when I just want to wind down.
I can't put into words the issues I am facing and have faced in the build up to this post because I'd be here all day. But all I know is that I don't want to be a stepmum, although I still love my partner (even though he makes me miserable at times) and i do love my stepson (though not unconditionally). I want to feel free and unrestricted. I've given this my all, and I want to give up. But to give up would mean that all of my hard work and sacrifice would mean nothing.
Please help. Is this a phase and things will get better?
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I want to give up
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Cajann · 25/03/2019 21:25
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