I'm the step mum. In my own life I'm a single parent with my own child. Work full time. Receive maintenance but no dad around to help. Context being that I have a very busy and stressful life, also have step children every other weekend. The rest of the time my partner works including weekends so we have very little time together. When he's off work the step kids are here too, which is no problem, but just saying we have little time.
Kids mum has now split up with her partner. She's ok they co parent well and we get on on a surface level but she irritates me. Find her selfish and petty amongst other things. Partber feels the same. Not that it matters they have a good co parenting relationship.
More recently, now she is on her own, she keeps suggesting family get togethers. So step son's birthday, partner and I went round had food did cake her family all there ... She left my partner for her married boss at work who then cheated on her for five years. During those years my partner was cast aside for family occasions. Anyway that's done and then we are having our families round at the weekend.
I've now just found out that partner has agreed to a meal on Sunday just us her and our children. I can't really afford it for one and think it's unnecessary. She keeps inventing these family get togethers now and I think it's because she's lovely, but I don't want to socialise in this way. Now pressured that it is for step son's birthday , but we've already had two meals and my partner went to her family occasion.
Why do I have to entertain this forced closeness that we are one big family? There is nothing in it for me. Just costs me more time and money.. I've already planned a family meal and cake on Saturday and contributed to a bike.
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R2G · 15/03/2019 08:35
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