Opinions please

[user12436644667]

Today my fiancé took my 2 young kids to pick up his daughter. Usually he would always pick her up from her house as her mum does not drive but today a male relative of hers dropped the daughter to the main road near our house (this have never happened before) My fiancé had our baby in the pushchair and my son was waking.

The male relative who he met has recently threatened to 'stab my fiancé and leave him lying in a pool of his own blood' the whole family are evil dangerous people and half the family are in prison.

I have only found out about this since returning home from work and have hit the roof.

Just to add it wasn't his contact weekend this extra contact was arranged this morning and I had no knowledge of this arrangement.

AIBU to think he put my kids in danger by taking them to meet this man?

Also posted in AIBU but interested to get opinions from a step parent point of view

[Bookworm4]

What age is the child being dropped at the side of the road? Think your DP needs to go down the legal route regards contact.

[user12436644667]

The child is 7 and the man who he met waited until my fiancée arrived and then she got out of the car.

He already has a court order for every other weekend. This was extra contact arranged this morning as his daughter called him asking to come over

[Bookworm4]

I think he needs to tell his ex if she wants him to have DD that she needs to do handover; those threats are extreme. I don't think your fiancé was wrong; he was trying to manage everything.

[user12436644667]

Thanks for your response. The mother does not drive and my fiancé does has a 3 seater van so would not of been able to do the contact if this man had not dropped her.

I'm annoyed as he knew I would say absolutely no way to this but he went behind my back and did it anyway. I now feel like he is not about to safeguard my children and I don't know what to do

[yikesanotherbooboo]

I sympathise with your DP who was trying to fulfill his responsibility to his DD but can understand your uneasiness as well. PP put it well,DSD's mother should be doing drop off and not the threatening person. Btw are the police and as aware of threats?

[user12436644667]

The police are aware. The whole family are in and out of prison and the mother has been cautioned at least 7 times by the police (we found this out in Cafcass proceedings) It is very worrying for me. I don't even like the kids going in the car to her house to pick up his daughter and they don't get out of the car.

The fact he actually took them within reaching distance of this man is ringing massive alarm bells to me

[user1493413286]

Yikes I think he put everyone in danger! I wouldn’t want my kids near someone who would make those threats.