Just looking for opinions on what's reasonable in this situation..
DSD is off on a residential trip to France in a few weeks. She obviously has a list of items required for the trip. It was mentioned a while back that she would need some new things to take, walking boots, waterproofs etc.
Anyway her mum has gone out and got her the things she needs for the trip, spent almost £250 and is asking us to contribute.
I'm a little annoyed for the following Reasons.
we pay 100 a week maintenance for 2 Children. We have them every weekend. We have to provide everything for our house, they often come in dirty, inappropriate clothing.. eg a skirt and T-shirt last weekend, no coat, in winter?! I've asked so many times for them to bring coats etc but never do. So we have to buy them for use at ours only, which also bugs me because it's such a waste of money as they grow so fast! they always want to take their new things home and it's horrible saying no because it seems petty but if we did we'd be buying new things every weekend. I'd happily help buy coats and clothes etc and let them home but we'd never see them again.
Also, we have some of the stuff on the list, we got them both walking boots the other week, they could of been taken and never seen again borrowed for the trip as it's not really something they use a lot. They have their own sleeping bags which we could of provided rather than buying new.
So I guess I'm annoyed she didn't consult us before hand, rather than posting a receipt through the door asking for half the money. My husband says he isn't paying, but I don't think it's unreasonable to ask for help towards things that's aren't everyday things, I just don't agree with how she's gone about it and we could if saved us all some money.
So what would you all do?
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0MrsP · 19/02/2019 16:36
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