How will my maintenance change - exH, new baby, and split

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GravityFalls Mon 18-Feb-19 12:57:18

My exH has recently had a new baby with his partner and I've found out that they've already split up. I have 2 DC with them and thus far has co-parented fairly amicably - he's paid roughly CMS amounts of maintenance but he lives outside the EU so it's not enforceable I don't think. How will the new baby affect that? I know it's a bit of a "how long is a piece of string" question but it's hard to work out from calculators online as they don't ever take into account that the NRP might be paying maintenance to more than one person.

I'm so annoyed that his stupid decisions lead to my children missing out, but that's a whole other post...They already don't see him often as he lives abroad and the money was about the only good thing he was doing for them. Now they're going to lose out on money and time.

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Itsallpeachyfornow Mon 18-Feb-19 16:03:10

Had I advised you the money will go down or are you presuming?

Itsallpeachyfornow Mon 18-Feb-19 16:04:13

Has he not had I (damn predictive)

Gingerkittykat Mon 18-Feb-19 16:12:09

Yes, your maintenance would go down if more than one child through CMS. My ex is now paying for 3 kids to 2 different mothers and I think they split the amount proportionately between the kids, he has his wages arrested and they distribute so no idea on exact figures.

However as you have said whatever he pays is not enforceable so I would think it would be likely he would want to pay you less. The new child has just as much right to financial support as your DC.

goldengummybear Mon 18-Feb-19 16:36:49

The fairest arrangement would be 2/3 to you and 1/3 to the other mum.

funinthesun19 Mon 18-Feb-19 16:49:34

The new child has just as much right to financial support as your DC.

Exactly. My stbx will be paying maintenance for 5 children when he leaves. 4 of the children are with me and 1 of them with his exw. I’m not going to lie, his exw would have got a heck of a lot more for just 1 child if it wasn’t for me claiming maintenance too. But he has a responsibility for 5 children not just 1, and it really is something she will have to discuss with him if she wants more. And it’s the same with you OP.

ems137 Mon 18-Feb-19 18:39:21

I think the total taken will go from 20% to 25% and will then be split into 3rds (2/3 for yours and 1/3 for other child).

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