He gets a sincere apology off his Dad, because DSS had been disrespectful and rude and DP called him on it and told him to go upstairs away from him for a bit? Apologies if there are no paragraphs the app likes to ignore them once I post.
Collected on Friday, giving his usual "simmer down", "wind your neck in" jibes 'jokingly' to DP who was joking with him about having a roast dinner for tea because we know he doesn't like them. They have a lot of banter together initiated by DSS mostly, then all was well and we got on with the weekend. Few more instances of telling DP to simmer down etc. Saturday he got up, had breakfast, we postponed our plans so he could watch football with DP, then went out, DPs full attention on him the whole time, took them out for dinner, came home and then we started telling each other our corniest jokes taking turns. DP went to go and DSS spoke over him which he allowed and then resumed but stuttered which DSS took the piss out of him for, really obnoxiously. So DP asked him who he thought he was talking to and to get out of his face cue DSS storming upstairs stating he wasn't having this. Left him to calm down, shouted him down and DP asked if he talks to his mum that way... yeah, would you talk to your grandad that way... No he doesn't annoy me. Then he stormed back upstairs screaming at the top of his lungs and slamming doors. DP went up and told him to calm down and talk to him, was told to get out, then DSS squared up to DP aggressively and was told to stop acting a prat and calm himself down .. Well that was it, called his mum who came and collected him. Left the house without saying goodbye, DP went after him and spoke to his mum who said she will talk to him. Left all his uniform and chargers which I had to take home for him yesterday.
Then yesterday, he messaged DP basically telling him that "he handled the situation wrongly, he was out of line and DP cant handle being 'told off' ". Basically chastising DP as if he were his dad. Refusing to accept that he was out of line at all and DP had a go at him for nothing. Then told DP he shouldn't expect to see him until he apologises and means it.
So what the hell do we do here? DP is adamant he won't apologise for disciplining his son when he is out of line and is raging that his son is manipulating him and showing zero respect for him.
Do we leave him? Does DP try and speak to him again despite him refusing to accept any responsibility? We are due to go away for half term and now everything is up in the air. It was just so over the top for the crime you would honestly think DP had come down on him like a ton of bricks but he didn't. It's the same with school, every teacher is in the wrong when he gets sent out of class for throwing water at his mates for example.
Apologies for the length, full disclosure and all that 😁
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