Firstly, first time poster so bear with me if I'm hopeless!
I recently got engaged to my DP of three years and we are both absolutely delighted. He has DD9 who I get on great with. She stays with us just slightly less than half the week and there are generally no issues at all. I've played a large part in her life for over 2 years now and I would say we're very close.
The engagement happened when we were on holiday and we video called her a few days later when she was at MIL's to tell her. I had suggested waiting till we were home, but DP wanted to call. At the time she couldn't have been less bothered and didn't really say anything - not sad or upset but not excited either. We put it down to her being more interested in playing about with the face filters on Facebook video calling than actually listening to us and having a conversation.
However we are now home and seen her for the first time yesterday and again she was totally dismissive of everything. She was happy to see both of us, but she wouldn't look at my ring and just kept changing the subject. I want to give myself a shake and deep down I think it's more just a matter of weddings being boring when you're 9 and she's just uninterested, but equally I'd hate to think she's hiding the fact she's upset. DP thinks I'm being ridiculous and worrying about nothing, but it's really getting me down. SIL got engaged at Christmas and DSD was so excited for them, so I can't help but compare her reactions.
I also want to ask her to be a junior bridesmaid, but worried that it will all be a bit too much for her. She's the most kind and loving little girl and I don't think she'd admit to being upset, so I don't want to put her in a position of feigning extra happiness at being asked to be bridesmaid.
Any advice on how to handle the situation and thoughts on the bridesmaid thing would be greatly appreciated!
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tipsytrainee46 · 20/01/2019 01:40
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