I'm trying to explain this without sounding like a complete tightwad - I know I'll be flamed if I do.
DSD has recently developed a habit of using all of my stuff. Toiletries mainly and I tend to buy relatively good stuff, shampoo/conditioner is professional, tinted moisturiser is a good (ish) brand, daily tan lotion is middle of the road etc.
A few months ago I found a number of my products in DSD's room and mostly empty, no idea how long they'd been there but she tends to plaster everything on so and most of them were full when they went missing. Her dad had a chat with her about asking permission to borrow things and not just taking them on the spot about it.
Now its a bit of a epidemic, she's returned to her mum's this week after xmas and I'm spotting all sorts of things that have gone missing in various forms. Fake tan has been mostly used up (and left in my bathroom so she's been using it whilst I'm at work then putting it back) my deep conditioner was left in her bathroom along with shower gel, cleanser, shampoo etc. There's not even any subtlety to this approach, I have to go and search for it!
I could go on. Make up remover, deodorant, hair serum, face mitts, bubble bath etc etc. The one that topped it off was when I found the empty packet of sanitary products in her bathroom drawer, I kinda might need to know in a hurry that I'm out of them!
I tried a strategy at christmas of buying her lots of "naice" bits in her stocking so that she wouldn't use all of mine, they went home to her mums because "I dont have naice things at mum's house".
What do I do here? Do I put a lock on my bathroom? Do I have words? I dont want to downgrade my toiletries because it's one of my very few luxuries but I use it sparingly. She's caning her way through everything I own!
I should add that I've been out this week and bought her one of everything but supermarket versions. Pantene, Sure, etc. She has a generous allowance from us and two part time jobs so we're not being brutally frugal. I can guarantee though that these will soon disappear and I've just fudged a solution in the short term.
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Dollyparton3 · 04/01/2019 12:59
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