Hi, I've been lurking here on and off for a while. I can relate to so many of the situations but I've never gotten around to replying to any of them.
I've been married to dh for 9 years. He has 5 'children' from his previous marriages, aged between 17 and 36. The eldest 3 have lives of their own, the younger two, aged 17 and 19 treat our home like a hotel. I have 2 girls from my first marriage ages 11 and 15. We have one dd together age 7. I am friends with dh's ex-w which seems to be a rarity.
For me the main problem has been dh's unequal treatment of the kids. We have been together since the boys were 9 and 11 and the girls were 3 and 6. DHs eldest son made him promise to always make the boys his priority when we first got together and while I would agree that you should always put your children first, it has caused no end of problems, especially with my eldest DD, now 15, who reacts with jealousy and resentment.
For years I have tried to tactfully point out to DH that spoiling the boys was doing them no favours. Well now, he seems to be paying the price. Now that they are both young men (one is nearly 18, the other nearly 20) they treat our home like a hotel, they come and go as they please, have no respect for anyone in our family, do what they want. They treat DH as a free taxi service to the point of ridiculousness and sponge off of him because they know that he can't say 'no'.
Whenever DH complains about them, I think to myself 'I told you so!' but I don't say it. I have been biting my tongue for so long now that it should have big holes in it.
Is there anyone else here in a similar situation with teenagers?
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dragonstitcher · 26/06/2007 15:05
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