This dynamic feels bizarre for me but AIBU?
When SC are not around DH is very affectionate, he regularly approaches me for a kiss and a cuddle. I am affectionate in this way too.
However when SC visit DH completely changes. He instantly becomes cold and largely ignores me whilst lavishing them in constant attention and affection (emotional and physical). This leaves me feeling sad, confused, rejected and at times resentful. I fear their visits now because our marriage dynamic changes so abruptly.
I have tried to ask him what's going on and all he says is "I don't like displays of affection". Yet he puts on displays with his kids, often in public with them climbing all over him and kissing him and him returning it.
I also have a DC from a previous relationship and I always show DH affection whether my DC is present or not. I think it's healthy for children to see a hug or a peck on the lips.
Has anyone else experienced this change in dynamic? His DC are staying for xmas and the thought of having a cold, affectionate-less xmas is making me depressed and anxious.
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Displays of affection when SCs are around
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Qubus · 21/12/2018 12:15
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