I have been a step mum to two children for 5 years. Honestly it's been a challenge but they have been great and totally accepted me. When their half sister came along it just gelled is all together more. The problem is one I couldn't really have foreseen. My husband was basically abused by the kids mother. They never married but she forced him to stay and basically had control over everything he did. She was also very aggressive and manipulative. I know this is usually the other way round but I promise she was the abusive one.
Anyway now their son is a teen he's being challenging. And my husband is spending hours a day on the phone to her and every time he drops the kids she corners him for ages. He feels he has to be her support as they share a son. But he's suffering from major stress and depressed and hates having all this contact. Yet feels he can't (or won't) tell her to back off. He's spending time supporting her while I then have to support him and pretend I'm just fine with everything. It's exhausting. And talking to him about it just makes him more stressed. I'm totally lost with what to do. I didnt sign up to share my husband!
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doozer42 · 08/12/2018 17:30
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