My son is 9,have been with my fiance for two years,myself and my son were on our own for 3 years before I met him. He doesn't see his dad and the memories he does have of him are not good (think emotional abuse).
He tends not to talk about his dad much but I make it clear that I'm here if he ever wants to. Tonight we had a big heart to heart about him and he said when he sees other children with their dads,he wishes he had one he could spend time with. I'm not overly worried about this as I think thats a natural reaction and I think its just dawning on him now how crap his dad actually is for not being there.
My partner is wonderful and I feel he and my son have a nice,natural relationship which has developed over time. We all lice together and my son feels comfortable teasing him,my partner knows a lot about my son,they talk about things,overall,its nice. True,they dont spend a lot of time alone,because I'm always around,but if they did,I'm sure they'd be fine
I don't expect to see him as his "dad" now because I think thats a pretty alien concept to him at 9,but I'd like to think that as time goes on,he will begin to see him as a father figure.
Anyway,I digress! During this chat tonight,my son said he didn't see my partner as a relative,more as a friend. And I just wanted to know how others stepkids saw you/your partner.
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wonderstuff99 · 05/12/2018 18:01
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