I did post this in the 'relationships' topic, but maybe I'll get some answers here...All opinions welcome!
My 10 year relationship ended 13 months ago (we have no kids) and decree Nisi has just been granted, so I'm on my 6 week countdown - Yippee!
I started a new relationship around 9 months ago, and he is also gong through the divorce process, but has a bit longer to go than me because he has 3 children with his ex; and a lot more to sort out. They've been separated for a year and it was a mutual agreement. She started the divorce process.
Although we've talked about our future together etc, I haven't asked him to rush his process as I realise its more complicated. It seems to be going quite smoothly so far though.
He has recently told his ex that we've been spending time together and she went mad has asked that he does not introduce his children to me because she thinks its too soon.
I understand that she would have concerns about someone new in their children's lives, and have agreed that we should be understanding and respectful of her wishes, initially.
My question is.. How long do we give her to get her head round it before we begin to introduce me to the children? Are we setting ourselves up for a lifetime of letting her dictate, or will it serve us better going forward to let her come round to the idea?
How long before he makes the decision himself?
I don't want to upset her or make he dislike me (any more than she probably already does) because I realise that if things work out with this man, she will always be involved in my life and I would like us to be able to get on in the future.. or at least be civil!
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incywincy9 · 20/11/2018 14:02
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