I feel like the worst person in the world. I have 2 boys (both 4 but not twins!) and my partner has a 7 year old. His son has been living with us for 2 weeks now and is set to stay. his mum has mental health problems and in my view is a waste of space in general but for whatever reason she is happy for him to come to us. I struggle with a few physical health conditions and mental health, I struggle to cope sometimes anyway but I just don't want another child! I didn't get any choice in the matter and I have never bonded with his son. He's rude and spoilt and I feel on edge all the time. I am expected to care for him, wash his clothes, cook for him, and everything a mother would. But I don't want to! My boyfriend pretty much moved in with other asking me preoprly and I feel so trapped! I can't talk to him cos it's his son and of course it's what's best for him that counts. I get that and that's why I haven't said no but do I really resign myself to being unhappy for the next 15 years?!
My eldest son has problems at school and is being assessed for Autism etc. I don't like the way my children behave around his son and they've had a tough life already due to their difficult father, house fire, robbery, I could go on.
Please help me! Do I sacrifice my happiness for a kid who doesn't even like me? or do I end my relationship? My partner will move out if I say his son can't live here. He is a great Dad and I know he would chose his son but who the hell am I to ask someone to do that anyway?!
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Audreykicks · 19/11/2018 13:52
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