Hi everyone,
Me and my wife are looking for some advice on adoption.
We have three children, but the elder two are not biologically mine. They are 7 and 4.5 and their biological father walked out 4 years ago.
We want to bring the whole family together, and I would like to be legally recognised as their father! The children have called me daddy for years (without me or my wife asking them to)
I have the father's consent now, it took a while to get hold of the bugger!
We've had a meeting with social services and they have said that they will tell the children "do you know that daddy is not your daddy?"
Our 7 year old has not mentioned her sperm donor for over 3 years so we don't know if she's forgotten and our 4 year old has absolutely no idea (he was only 4 months old when the biological father walked out).
We are obviously going to sit them down one day and tell them what's happened but I don't want a stranger to say it to them.
Now, the lady from social services admitted she's never done an adoption before and doesn't know the whole ins and outs, and was actually reading off a script, but I just want to ask if anyone else has gone through this with young children?
Me and my wife planned to tell the children once they knew where babies come from etc, so it's easier to understand.
Can someone please give us any advice or guidance. We would be so appreciative.
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Poptomla146 · 30/10/2018 18:10
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